Maturity, Adolescence, and Adulthood

Irrational Health, 5. Maturity is one of those things that has sort of been obfuscated to the point where people can apply to literally any situation. Maturity entails having the qualities of understanding, composure, thought, and an ability to confront one’s problems. Why are we immature during adolescence? It’s simple. The adolescent year’s are really the beginning of the formulation of our adult minds. We are immature because we haven’t had a lot of opportunities to exercise our maturity. That comes with time. During adolescence, one has limited understanding, a lesser ability to maintain composure, a less in depth thought-process, and a tendency to want to ignore certain problems rather than to confront them. We’re speaking generally as always.

The irrationality here lies in that society’s conception of what is mature has focused in on a subset of those qualities that make up maturity; therefore, it’s lead to this understanding of maturity that has lead us to become something like super-adolescents, rather than actual adults. Think about like always. How many times do you find yourself in a situation where most people seem to agree that the mature thing to do is to ignore a situation altogether? I’d wager that it probably happens all of the time. People have become very focused on composure and how it relates to how people view them. Most people end up blankly not taking the time to think about a particular situation before they fall back on some historical (likely flawed) understanding of the situation and deciding that it’s best to just drop it because why bother with the inconvenience. The adult thing to do is to value one’s time, right? Well, that is a value and an important one, but this understanding of valuing one’s time is a sort of corrupt version of the value. We’re becoming super adolescents. We’re becoming these people who are really great at pushing aside things once it becomes to inconvenient to maturely deal with said situation, and rather we “maturely” decide that the adult thing to do is to let it go because of whatever constructed reason we want to use. It’s irrational to extol maturity and to still want to misconstrue situations so that you walk out an adult. If you want to pretend to be someone for Halloween, you just wouldn’t dress up as that character, because a Joker whose walking like a businessman, makes for a pretty lousy costume. We have a large group of people out there who are walking are growing up and dressing in adult clothes, putting on a great show, yet ignoring everything that they don’t want to confront, which inevitably shows its face again and again, until eventually the person you’re looking at in the mirror becomes a sort of antithesis of the person you wanted to be when you were younger. Think about what an interesting experience it would be to look at your childhood self and have to explain to him/her why you made the decision that you made.